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Yellow head
Well it had to happpen. I've been thrown out of the house by my brother. I'd been away in Yorkshire for a week, and I came back to find that not only was I without internet access in the house, but the phone into my room had been unplugged as well. As soon as I returned I was subjected to a barrage of loud music from his room, the slamming of doors, dark mutterings about me being a "stupid idiot". I was stressed, stressed, stressed.

Of course, he claims that there's nothing wrong with my phone or the internet, and that the fault must lie with me somewhere. But it's all just too much of a coincidence.

My mother said to me on the phone that I should simply ask him to turn the music down. But I knew that as soon as I confronted him about this, he would use this as an excuse to throw me out, and indeed this is what happened. Furthermore, he says that if I don't move my stuff out by next week, he'll put everything I own out on the street.

It's all down to money, basically. He thinks that I've been withholding rent money from him and that I've been making no real effort to get a job. He told me he knew of people who'd got a job the day after they started looking (thanks to his advice, he says).

The utter hatred and contempt he holds me is just staggering. Writing this makes me so angry. I was just speechless with shock. I'm apparently very selfish and think only about myself. Anyone who knows me wouldn't recognise his description of me. I've spent my whole life putting other people before myself and this is partly why I'm in this situation.

So I'm now homeless, thousands of pounds in debt, and have no job.

I'm going to have to go up to Yorkshire again to my parents, after having spent enormous amounts of time and money, trying to settle in this part of the country.

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Crumbs! Before going to your parents', couldn't you apply for some council assistance? You never know, you might even be given a flat. It *does* sometimes happen. At least, they might provide B&B accommodation... You ought to try and get some help in dealing with the benefit droids and debts,CAB or something.
Anyway, if I win the lotto, you're definitely on my list of People To Help!

Jeez. I can't help but think that long term you'll probably be better of somewhere else, but short term it's a major pain. As another comment here suggests, can the council help?

I got your cheque, but didn't manage to sort anything out before I left, but will once I can get safe access to the house again.

Well cash the cheque now. Every little helps eh. Get the print whenever. No rush.

God, what a nightmare :(

Loves on you


D., I wish we had the space spare to put you up, otherwise we'd have made you an offer to come to Leamington.

We don't have a lot of cash, but if you ever find yourself in desperate need of emergency money, please drop me a line.

- lee

Gosh, You're just too, too amazing. Let's hope it won't come to that. Curiously, now that the thing I've most dreaded happening, has happened, I feel perfectly fine. I just keep thinking that this is going to make great material for a comic strip. Once I get out of this mess.

Horrible, I really feel for you. Get away from this negative influence as soon as you can. Go to your parents and give yourself a couple of weeks - if you can - to gather yourself together. Then you can start working towards getting your life back. I don't know if it's possible to see the debt as smaller chunks, and start chipping away at them one at a time, rather than one big black ogre.

Paint yourself smashing that ogre! (and put them on your blog :-) ).You'll get there - it's time you had some luck now.

Yes, there are setups where you can arrange to pay back loans a *really* teeny bit at a time; it's just so difficult to get the help you're entitled to.
It's a good idea to contact the credit card bots to inform them of your situation. They're seldom very helpful, but at least it shows you're trying, and makes it more difficult for them to actually hassle you.

I've just come from the council, who tell me that in order to get help from them, I would have had to have lived, or had local connections in the area for at least five years. Since I haven't been in the area that long, I would have to go back to Chester, where I lived for 15 years or so.

I sign on tomorrow, when I'm going to grill the staff for as much help as possible.

Whew...Best o' luck, anyway. Something's gotta give.

well... as a fall back chester social services might be OK - let's hope they don't try to wheedle if you feel that they are needed...

but still

ach - I'm sorry - wish there was something practical we could do to help.

let us know if you need owt, yeah?

my means are somewhat limited - I can't help out financially

I do think you are well out of that place - I have been secretly worrying about something unreasonable like this happening and its no comfort to find you beset

I hope you can get through this on your own terms - you can see right here that there's a groundswell of support for you

please let me know if there's anything I can do: references, introductions etcetera

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